What we put consume for our bodies affects everything, emotionally and physically including our sexual desire. Empty calories and fatty treats just don’t cut it in the boudoir, as poor eating contributes to an expanding waistline and crumby sheets kill the sexy mood. Saturated fats and sugar zap the body’s stores of zinc, mainly a key player in all things amorous. Zinc improves sex drive, and heightens the senses of taste and smell.

Just like the movie “No Strings Attached”, guys and girls try to keep their relationship strictly physical, but it’s not long before many of them just learn like the movie – that they want something more.

When girls and boys want to have sexual encounter, however they aren’t interested in, or they are not in a position to have a more committed relationship, then having physical relationship with a good friend can be an option and fun. When playing the game of FWB – Friends with Benefits – meaning the relationship is to be temporary only, which is why many people enjoy doing them.

When you are relocating soon, or just ended a serious relationship, or are very focused on your career or other passion, it can be ideal till when you’re ready for the real relationship. However you must prepare and get ready for the game of FWB by following the rules:

Assess Your Life

Understand your position first. Take a look at your life where you are and where you want to be, be honest with yourself and knowing what  you want clearly. Do not start a FWB relationship with someone you secretly want to date. When women settle for a FWB rather than create the long-term relationship they really want, it’s ultimately unsatisfying.

You must ensure you really can handle a physical relationship with no strings attached. The people who are most comfortable with no-strings-attached relationships tend not to be jealous people. They are least possessive, and not into monogamy, at least not at the moment.

An honest self-assessment is probably the best barometer of whether you can handle it, ask yourself the following questions:

• Is this the guy I can sleep with and forget about once I get out the door?
• Does the thought of him with another woman makes me ill?
• Am I likely to start planning the wedding after a few tumbles?

Clarify Your Ground Rules

Now you know what you want, it is time to establish relationship ground rules early in the game that keeps everyone well grounded. It’s also key to not getting so swept away by the physical part that you start thinking maybe your FWB is Mr. Right. These things blow up when one person expects the relationship to be one thing and the other person expects it to be something else. If everyone’s on the same page and the expectations are very concrete, a FWB relationship can be a convenient, fruitful experience. The way to make that happen is to have a talk about the expectations from each of you.

Keep Your Mind Clear

By definition, a FWB relationship comes with absolutely no strings. Yes, you like each other. That’s what makes you friends. And if the physical part is mind-blowing, good for you! But hoping to parlay awesome sexual chemistry into a diamond ring, picket-fence and 2.5 kids is a set-up for heartbreak. Women tend to over-think when they are sexually involved, so if you’re going to do a FWB relationship, really try to lighten up, take it at face value and enjoy it.

Consider Geographical Boundary

Living in a distant city might make a guy geographically undesirable as a boyfriend, it makes him the perfect FWB candidate. It can be especially great if one of you is in the other’s city often, either for business, family or you both travel the same conference circuit. The geographical boundary prevents you from trying to mold this into a more serious relationship. Distance also cuts down on those potential drama or awkward moments that can occur when your paths cross unexpectedly. When you live out of town, you also avoid opportunity of running into him with another woman he’s sleeping with.

Leave No Trace

It’s tempting to stash a few things at your FWB’s place so you don’t feel like a Sherpa, schlepping around everything, such a toothbrush, lipstick, hair gel, underwear…things you’ll need for the morning after. But when it comes to FWBs, it’s best to follow the golden rule of camping – Leave No Trace.

It is important to understand this is not your home, and you do not leave your stuff to mark territory at his place.

Stay Away From Holidays

Neither Thanksgiving turkey dinner nor Christmas celebration is part of the FWB job description. No birthday celebration, no Valentine’s Day, no wedding dancing partner, additionally you do not introduce your FWB to family and friends. This really muddies the waters and sends mixed messages to each other and outsiders. You do not want this start to look like dating.

However you may consider casual occasion, a pub crawl together for St. Patrick’s Day? Fine. Super Bowl Sunday? Knock yourself out. Go out with your single girlfriends for Valentine’s Day. It will keep the FWB status honest.

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

You need to know the balance of how much to conceal and reveal. You might not want to hear all the juicy details of his other dates and you may want to keep mum about your own dates, too. Whether you choose full disclosure, don’t ask, don’t tell or something in between, info sharing should be part of your “ground rules” discussion. You may decide to keep your outside love lives to yourselves until one of you gets involved in a more serious relationship.

Small Gift

Consider a small, low-key  gift if you would like to give for his birthday or Christmas. Books, CDs or gift card for iTune. Do not give concert tickets or a weekend getaway at a charming B&B. Aim for non-romantic gifts that you’d give a friend and not to expect anything in return.

Be Safe And Responsible

Keep yourself safe and clean during sexual activities. Many STDs, including herpes, Chlamydia, hepatitis B and the human papilloma viruses that cause cancers and genital warts, are often silent infections, so your FWB could expose you without even realizing it. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimate that there are 19 million new sexually transmitted infections each year. Consider that 19 million good reasons to carry and use your own condoms.

“Men are like driving standard transmission – if you move through the gears in the right order, you will get where you want to go – and women are like baking a souffle – the outcome depends on the ingredients and the chef, sure, but it also depends on the reliability of the oven, the altitude, the humidity of the day… more variables, more variability.” Dr. Emily Nagoski said in her book The Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms.

Evolutionarily, men are wired to spread their seed indiscriminately, while women are wired to cultivate; psychologically, inside every man is an insecure little boy who needs constant sexual approval; behaviorally, men respond to simple cues like visual stimulation, while women respond to complex emotional cues.

Male sexuality is viewed as simple, basic, natural instinct, female are much more complex with addition of mother nature, seeking for strong father hood for babies. Female sexual brain contains tons of dials and instruments, and there’s sophisticated calibration going on.

But are men really that simple? And are women really so different? In many cases, women certainly can have sex like men, women are indeed doing just like these single women in Sex and City. Plenty of women who don’t like to cuddle after sex, and plenty of men who do. There are also lots of women who love casual sex, and plenty of men who want sex to be part of an emotionally committed relationship. There are plenty of male “souflees.”

But if women can have sex like men, then men are also capable of having sex like women: with complex motivations. For example, men have done so simply for the sex or in the heat of the moment, but many of them cheat for more complex reasons – they were bored, emotionally disconnected in their relationship, depressed, or seeking passion.

And while it would seem that, in our age of Anthony Weiner, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and John Edwards, men are ruled by the passions of their penis, there are actually just as many men with low sexual desire as there are women.

So is female sexuality is really more complicated than male sexuality? It depends on the individual woman, and how she’s using sex at the time; same goes for the men. There are times when sex (and our desires) are simple and times when they’re more complex.

So is your sexuality like a light switch that goes on and off, or like a dimmer or volume knob that operates on a spectrum? More than likely, whether you’re a man or a woman, it’s both: You can be both switch or knob depending upon the context.

And sometime you’re probably a complex souflee. Women have sex for more than 200 reasons, ranging from love to pure pleasure to a sense of duty to curiosity to curing a headache. Why do men have sex? Can you count the reasons?

Approaching a women or men a is not an easy undertaking for some people are, but once the conversation has been established, how to safely throw in some flirting questions?

Good flirty questions to ask on a date will keep the conversation interesting, but we got to be careful that things don’t turn weird and outright embarrassing. Sexy questions will tell someone a lot about yourself, and should hopefully help tear down the psychological wall especially during initial conversations. They should inject some fun, excitement and curiosity and hopefully encourage your partner in opening up about themselves.

There is a fine line to be walked by increasing the spiciness of the conversation, so don’t start asking about sexual favors before bringing up the bedroom. Men are easy, they can talk about most subjects out of the gate while women need more time to warm up and get to know their partner first. So men, be sure to take it easy, be flirting but if the questions make you uncomfortable, you probably took it a step too far.

A good way to loosen up the conversation, is to turn the questions into a game. Try to ask open questions that leads a partner to loosen up and tell about themselves and avoid closed ones that lead to yes or no answers.

Here are some flirty questions to get you started on your next date:

What’s your favorite place to be kissed?
Describe your favorite kiss you’ve ever had?
What’s your favorite color lingerie?
What color panties are you wearing?
Do you prefer ice cubes or hot wax?
Do you prefer strawberries with whipped cream or chocolate?
What’s your sexiest article of clothing?
Where would you like me to touch you more?
What sexual act feels the best?
What one word would describe the most pleasurable night you’ve had?
Describe the perfect kiss.
What’s your perfect date?
If you could take your date anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?
Do you like men/women who make the first move?
What are some nicknames you’d like your honey to call you?
Whats the farthest you’ve gone outside of a relationship?
Whats the farthest you’ve gone in a relationship?
Whats your dream future?
Whats the biggest turn on in a date?
What would you like to be called?
What is love at first sight to you? Do you believe in it?
What do you think is your best feature?
What would you do for a romantic anniversary?
Where is your favorite place to be touched?
Would or have you ever had sex with an unshaven partner?
Where is your dream place to make love?
Whats the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?
Do you like to be on top or bottom better?
Would you rather me lick whip cream or chocolate off of you?
Do you like to get your hair pulled during love making?
Do you have any weak spots that i could bite at?
Would you ever watch porn with me?
Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

Let’s just pretend a scene: A gorgeous, natural blond-haired beauty standing on a ladder painting the walls of their home and marked down with colorful paint. She looks quite helpless. Her long bare legs disappear under a white shirt while painting. The scene begs for one to step up and finally gets his hands-on work started, and we certainly don’t talk about wallpaper.

Help is at hand in the form of a well-built friend who obviously knows exactly what to do. Close-up. We see a lot of hands on bare skin and otherwise everything important that goes with it. Including stamina. What is missing are close-ups of private parts from every conceivable angle and lustful glances into the camera.

Most important feature: Authenticity

Why? Because women are silly and romantic says Sandra Brancheninsiderin Maravolo, managing director of Inside Her in Frankfurt. Most important for women is that the desire for sexual acts are authentic and not staged for the camera. The new motto is “Heart Core” instead of “Hard Core”, where couples appear with more erotic and passion and less of hard work.

Women want to be free

Research has shown that the subject sex and adult industry in modern society has found it’s acceptance and is no longe considered taboo. Women are more open to erotica, sex toys and sexual adventures and pretty much broken the old social constraints. Recent studies have shown that 90 percent of women acknowledge their sexuality and desires, not inhibited to ask for satisfaction. 70 percent enjoy to display their bodies and 65 percent don’t feel any social pressures to fit into a paradigm.

Women fantasize

An astounding 81 percent of women explained that their fantasy included some degree of loss of control, while 66 percent envision to submit themselves entirely to their partners. This would explain why sexual arousal is based on mental connection, power and trust for most women. In case you’re a man reading this, keep this in mind the next time you like to seduce your partner to watch a porn movie with you.

The so-obvious characteristics. Eyes as if the fog, did not want to look up when his wife. Come home late at night from the ‘office’ with se cercah used lipstick on shirt collar. Or, soft fragrance Bvlgari for women jump from the body – squeeze out another woman.

Men are often had affair. And those who do, far more women instead. In the research of the original Kinsey Report – published more than 50 years ago – there are 60 percent male, compared to 30 percent of women, that is not loyal to the party before reaching age 40. Perhaps, this amount is almost always the same in the next research. No matter what the work, from ordinary people until the president, can be contaminated ‘disease’ is.

But, why? What reasons for them? This is the answer – not from men-the men – but it’s the women who had affair in, such as that disclosed in iVillage’s Speak Your Mind. The answers they are loaded with different taste, a sense of anger to understanding, frustration until remission, but very popular.

Pure Sexual

According to the women, men would have had an affair if they have the opportunity to do so. Love life even happier, but when some women who want intimate relation with it, why not? In fact, men can also make sexual contact without the need to have a feeling that with another woman.

It’s Easier Than To Improve Relationships

Male had affair as lazy. Improve the relationship rather than being threatened with a pair legality crisis, he prefers to establish a new relationship with another woman. For, take great courage for a man to recognize that there is a relationship in which it is built.

Because the Ego of a Big Men

Who I’d like to have beautiful and sexy wife, but also still have the same steady-same (especially if more) beautiful and sexy? Men happy to receive praise, especially from the type of opponent. When the pair came from affair, his the egoist is already big, the swell will be. Adored and considered attractive by other women will make men more self-confidence increased.

To meet the lack of Relationships In The Now

When there is something less in relationships that are now woven, The man more often had affair. ‘Shortcomings’ that could be located in the sex or a healthy communication. If he can not ‘talk’ with my wife or can not do ‘kinky sex’, it’s easy for him to turn to another woman who can give it.

Are men just selvish

Many had affair only men because they are not mature, greedy, and do not know how to show respect to the spouse. They can also be selfish, and they only think they have feelings, needs, and the lust-lust for slaked. So no matter who will be hurt, as long as they get what they want.

The Feeling for you Adam, Are You Feeling the signs As Above .

Two important aspects of American society’s definition of manhood are financial success and masculine personality attributes such as confidence and determination. Both have been found to affect woman’s romantic attraction to men.

However, relatively little research has been conducted on friendships between women and men. Although some studies have examined the effects of masculine and feminine personality traits on both platonic with romantic attraction, none to date have examined the effect of financial success on platonic attraction. Finally, no study to date has shown that socially desirable personality traits are necessarily more romantically or platonically attractive than socially undesirable traits. By presenting participants with males of contrasting levels of income, occupational status, social desirability and gender role congruence, the present study examined the effects of financial success and gender-role-related personality traits on women’s platonic and romantic attraction ratings of males.

Conflicting evidence of the attractiveness of masculine and feminine traits in men has been reported in the gender role literature. Some studies have found that women prefer stereotypically masculine men as potential mates; others have found that women are more attracted to androgynous or even feminine personality men. Despite this conflicting evidence, it still seems popular to believe that women in contemporary American society prefer men who are “sensitive,” or have feminine personality traits.

However, many sensitive men may not share this belief because of their personal experience. According to Ickes, “the gentle, compassionate man who reads magazine surveys indicating that his qualities are the very ones that most women prefer in a mate may be the same man who is repeatedly turned down by women who seek the company of more atavistic males.” Similarly, Farrell has stated that women “go for heroes while saying they want vulnerability” and later try to persuade their partners to become more sensitive and vulnerable, rather than initially pursuing sensitive and vulnerable men.

Ickes has proposed that such paradoxical behavior (he also gave examples of men’s paradoxical behavior) occurs because of an inner conflict in heterosexual men and women between genetic and past cultural influences and the influence of gender equality ideals in contemporary American culture. Feminine women may be inherently physically and sexually attracted to masculine men, yet the hierarchical nature of such traditional gender role dyads conflicts with gender equality ideals, leading to interactions that are less satisfying than those of non-traditional dyads.

If gender equality ideals are initially overwhelmed by the sexual attractiveness of a gender role congruent partner, then the influence of these ideals may be best seen in relationships in which sexuality is not an issue, such as friendships. Thus, the gentle, compassionate man Ickes describes may be more desirable as a friend to the same women who reject him as a date, while the more atavistic males Ickes describes may be less desirable as a friend.

Findings in a study by McCutcheon suggest some support for this interpretation of Ickes’ “fundamental paradox” proposition. He found that women were more attracted to feminine males than masculine males as potential friends but found no difference in their attractiveness as potential dates. Thus, women’s attraction to gender role congruent men may have competed with their attraction to feminine men in the case of dating, but not in friendship. The present study examined whether college women would prefer feminine trait or masculine trait men as potential friends versus potential romantic partners and whether feminine or masculine men would be preferred as potential friends versus potential romantic partners.

Ickes’ fundamental paradox proposition also suggests that a man’s financial success is important to women. Success and success-related characteristics such as ambition, earning potential, and earning capacity have been shown to be more important criteria for women than for men in their heterosexual dating patterns.

However, Sprecher’s findings suggests that these gender differences in relationship criteria do not reflect the actual importance of success-related characteristics, but only their attributed importance to men and women. Gender was not related to participant romantic attraction ratings of an opposite-gender stimulus person, but women attributed their attraction to earning potential more than did men. These findings seem to conflict with Ickes’ fundamental paradox proposition, which would have predicted gender differences in attraction ratings because of genetic influences, yet similar attraction attributions because of gender equality ideals.

Nevertheless, Townsend has suggested that unlike men, women with higher earning potential have a smaller pool of acceptable sexual and marital partners than other women because they seek men of equal or higher earning potential. Findings in a later study by Townsend and Levy suggest that the importance of a man’s success level is not limited to his desirability as a potential marriage partner. They found that while a man’s success level became more important to women as marital potential and sexual involvement increased, a partner’s financial success level was a more important consideration for women than for men in their willingness to engage in all measured levels of relationships. Despite the differences in their findings, the converging evidence of these studies suggests that financially successful men are more romantically attractive to women than financially unsuccessful men.

In conclusion, these results suggest that in a controlled setting where confounding variables are less likely to be present, women prefer feminine men over masculine men and that income is important only when choosing among men who all have desirable masculine or feminine personality traits. Although these findings have limitations of external validity, they do lend support to the notion that women are not primarily materialistic, but are more concerned with the relationship-relevant qualities of expressiveness in their choices of romantic partners and friends.

Some standard thoughts from men:

I must admit that playing the field is a whole lot of fun, but so is being in a serious relationship — provided that it’s with the right woman. But how do you know if she really is the right woman for you? If she possesses the following 10 traits, you better hold on to her for dear life or, before you know it, a guy who already knows where it’s at will get his hands on your “goods.”

She is independent

No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while, like if she’s had a rough day at work, it’s great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can’t seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you’re suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit.

On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet , both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you — while still missing you, of course — then she must be a great girlfriend.

She is intelligent

I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. Instead of being the one in total control, you’ll find yourself trying to figure out what she’s really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers — or if she’s actually thinking at all.
An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won’t let you get bored of her. Besides, it’s nice to have something to talk about between all that chandelier-hanging sex.

She is sexual

While we’re on the topic, a great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. For instance, if you’re into S&M and she’s more the “fluffy lingerie” type, that’s a problem. The two of you have to be on the same page — or, at least, she has to be willing to wear leather and use a whip from time to time.
Of course, this doesn’t imply that she has to know all the right moves straight away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction toward each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each other in the bedroom, or on top of the washer — whatever the case may be.

She is beautiful

I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. She should always look her best and be well put together — matching lingerie is a definite plus.
You have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light. And this doesn’t mean that she has to be a Heidi Klum clone. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you think her full bottom or uncontrollable curls are beautiful, you’re allowed.

She respects you

This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn’t necessarily agree with what you’re saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape or form.
A great girlfriend won’t ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. If she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing.

She lets you be a man

Do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker night and all. If she’s a great girlfriend, she’ll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches.
She has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn’t deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn’t expect you to give up the guys for her.

She is nag-less (or nags less)

There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak up and when to let it slide. You don’t want a girlfriend who will give you hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally.
However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you’re setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide — not even a great girlfriend.

She gets along with friends and family

A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad’s stories and hang out with your friends, but she will enjoy it. She’ll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won’t try to get you to ditch your best buds.
She’ll actually empathize with your brother’s getting dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won’t roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she’ll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).

She loves you

If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn’t try to change you is hard to find. Of course, all women have their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these.
Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn’t seem to faze her either way, and she doesn’t really seem to care about what you have to say, she’s either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there’s no denying that she loves you.

She makes you want to be a better man

Stop making that face… any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn’t have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.