Power of musky cologne

Just like the perfume she is waring arouses you, she will be turned on by your classy cologne come along with your charming smile. Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual functioning for two reasons: First, since anything musky mimics testosterone, it’ll kick her libido into high gear. Baby powder can have a similar effect by activating her “scent print,” which links babies to procreation. Second, because smell, sex and memory centers share close quarters in the brain, the scent of arousal leaves the most lasting impression. The second she gets a whiff of your musky cologne, she’ll be transported back to the last time she smelled it on your body.

Gentle kiss and caress

Kiss her gently, start from her eyes to her lips, ears and neck that makes her feel special. Touch on the right side of a woman’s spine makes her melt more so than the left side, perhaps because the left side of the brain controls her right side and it’s the logical side that can talk her into anything. Whether you’re kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy. With oil on your hand massaging her with tenderness, will make significantly more intense than a straight touch.

Take care of her feet

In Chinese tradition, women are served a bucket of warm water to warm up her feet, following a foot massage prior to intimacy time with their men. Warm feet do more to make a woman physically comfortable than just about anything else — even more so if you want her completely naked, which is not likely to happen if she’s cold, even with the lights off. What most of you probably didn’t realize was the importance of warm feet in increasing the likelihood of her experiencing an orgasm. According to Dutch scientists from the University of Groningen, the odds are increased by 30%. Maybe leaving the socks on isn’t such a bad idea after all. If you want to try something sexier, a foot massage with a warming gel can do wonders, especially if you concentrate on the pads of her toes and the webbing in between, which are linked to her nether zones according to reflexology charts. Moreover, lips, hands, feet, and genitals get the lion’s share of brain space, where feet and genital centers are neighbors, making them share sexy information.

Concentrate on her G-spot

When zoning in between her legs, just as you appreciate her indulging more than just your package, she’d like you to go for more than her hood ornament. If you run your tongue around her clitoral head, concentrating on the 10 o’ clock and 2 o’clock marks on either side, and then gently slip your tongue beneath the hood, you’ll have her moaning from the intensity. While bang-on is too sensitive, those two sweet spots will make sure that she takes a licking and keeps on ticking, thanks to the bulbs hidden just beneath. The best way to pull off this maneuver is to have her straddle your face as you lay comfortably on your back. She’ll get to lean into the headboard so she can drive the action with ease, since you’ve put her in the driver’s seat.

Climax trickery

Time for you to take your tricks for a test drive. With all that attention, her skin will be flushed, her pupils dilated, parts of her shaking, and those she can steady, she’ll be pushing into you — until she’s done and can’t take anymore, that is. Now that’s how to make her orgasm for real and, trust us, you’ll be able to tell the difference.

Let’s just pretend a scene: A gorgeous, natural blond-haired beauty standing on a ladder painting the walls of their home and marked down with colorful paint. She looks quite helpless. Her long bare legs disappear under a white shirt while painting. The scene begs for one to step up and finally gets his hands-on work started, and we certainly don’t talk about wallpaper.

Help is at hand in the form of a well-built friend who obviously knows exactly what to do. Close-up. We see a lot of hands on bare skin and otherwise everything important that goes with it. Including stamina. What is missing are close-ups of private parts from every conceivable angle and lustful glances into the camera.

Most important feature: Authenticity

Why? Because women are silly and romantic says Sandra Brancheninsiderin Maravolo, managing director of Inside Her in Frankfurt. Most important for women is that the desire for sexual acts are authentic and not staged for the camera. The new motto is “Heart Core” instead of “Hard Core”, where couples appear with more erotic and passion and less of hard work.

Women want to be free

Research has shown that the subject sex and adult industry in modern society has found it’s acceptance and is no longe considered taboo. Women are more open to erotica, sex toys and sexual adventures and pretty much broken the old social constraints. Recent studies have shown that 90 percent of women acknowledge their sexuality and desires, not inhibited to ask for satisfaction. 70 percent enjoy to display their bodies and 65 percent don’t feel any social pressures to fit into a paradigm.

Women fantasize

An astounding 81 percent of women explained that their fantasy included some degree of loss of control, while 66 percent envision to submit themselves entirely to their partners. This would explain why sexual arousal is based on mental connection, power and trust for most women. In case you’re a man reading this, keep this in mind the next time you like to seduce your partner to watch a porn movie with you.

Be Happy

It goes without saying that sex can make you happy and content, but a paper in the Archives of Sexual Behavior takes this idea one step further. Based on a study of 300 women that associated condom use with depression, researchers concluded that women who never used condoms were the least depressed, while those women who constantly used condoms were the most depressed. One reason? The vagina may absorb the mood-boosting hormones and prostaglandins found in semen. It’s an captivating theory, but certainly no reason to advocate unguarded sex. Clearly, an unwanted pregnancy or STD would not enhance anyone’s happiness.

Stay in shape

Sex burns about five calories per minute on balance, depending upon your weight. Even engaging your partner in a hot kiss boosts the heart rate and metabolism which in turn increases caloric burn. In addition, researchers found that college students who had frequent sex had higher levels of immunoglobulin A, an antibody that boosts the immune system. So, next time you’re not in the mood to work out, try getting busy instead.

Sex actually may help strengthen the heart because orgasm triggers the release of the hormone DHEA, which helps with circulation and arterial dilation. A current study in print in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology found that erectile dysfunction (ED) is often an early sign of inadequate cardiovascular health. Researchers followed about 2,300 men for an average of four years and found that men with ED had a 58 percent greater risk of coronary heart disease, while another study showed that men who had three or more orgasms per week experienced half of heart attacks and strokes as compared with those who had less frequent orgasms.

Look young and healthy

Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland did a long-term analysis of 3,500 people between the ages of 30 and 101 found that regular sex may cut down between four and seven years off your physical appearance. The researchers presented photos of the subjects to an neutral panel of judges who were asked to assume their ages. The candidates who were judged to be the youngest were also those who had the most sex. What’s the association between youthfulness and getting it on? In addition to boosting self-confidence and fearlessness, sex increases the production of human growth hormone, which is known to benefit muscle tone.

Reduce stress and live longer

Researchers at the University of Paisley in Scotland conducted a test with 46 men and women who were asked to give speeches to an audience who was told to act bored and disinterested. After the reading were over, the participants’ blood pressure was taken and those who reported having sex within the last two weeks had the lowest readings. For reasons that are still blurry regular sex may even add years to your life. A study published in the British Medical Journal found that men who had sex less than once per month were twice as likely to die in the next 10 years than those who had sex once per week. And guys aren’t the only ones to benefit: Researchers at Duke University found that women who claimed to enjoy their sex lives lived seven to eight years longer than women who were indifferent to sex.

So Tom. I met him after my studies in Berlin. My then boyfriend received his doctorate in Switzerland and was far away. At first I could not stand Tom: He was two years younger, my trainers and damned arrogant. But it also irritated me. And at some point it tipped between us. We chatted for hours, met with nightly bouts of red wine in the park, and what was the strongest terms: We never touched us. No hand that got lost, no kiss, nothing. I had betrayed my friend and have never guessed, however, that long ago it was too late. Four months we persevered. The bodies of the highest excitement, the dopamine level at the stop. Until we attacked each other in a mixture of fear, self-indulgent bad conscience and unbridled lust.

Back to the past

But how do you find out what you need and above all, how you need it? Morin has for one simple tip: Dive into the past! Focus on the most exciting encounter of your life, remember as much detail as possible! Thank you, Tom, for this once exciting experience! Critical look at in the rear view mirror is sexual, understanding patterns of their own volition to get into central erotic. Why is this or that encounter was so exciting? How big was this excitement compared to your usual level? What feelings were important: Exuberance? Satisfaction? Neighborhood? Fear? Guilt? Anger? Recognition?

Once in a while it’s worth taking a fresh look at what’s new in the world of erotic and find the most innovative sex toy for her and him. Aside from the usual variations of vibrators and dildos for her, and penis enlarger / love dolls for him, it is pretty hard to find new and exciting products in that sector. If you think about it, there are only so many form and shapes that any sex toy can adhere to, right?

Nonetheless, this time we seem to have found a few noteworthy items. There is a new set of dream massager for women that caught our attention due to it’s modern and discreet looks and very handy styling. The Swedish Erotica Dream Massager G is an exciting Pink Massager and comes as a Adult Sex Toy Kit. It’s form is designed to find your most exotic spots and the kits accessories lets you customize it according to your personal taste.

In the guys section, there is one company from Japan that stands out. Tenga creates innovative, state of the art adult toys that appear to originate from another planet. Check out the Tenga’s Egg Variety Pack, it’s definitely something we haven’t seen before. The eggs come with different patterns inside that stimulate the penis, and lubricant is included. We can’t wait to see more from Tenga.

The number of men suffering erectile dysfunction changes depending on who you ask, but roughly 15 million men suffer recurring penile issues in the U.S. Based on Viagra sales in the U.K. and the U.S., that number seems low. Bear in mind, however, that solutions to stop erectile dysfunction goes beyond those little blue pills.

Most often, failing to rise to the occasion is a psychological thing. That’s right, men: Just like women, our heads (both of them) have to be in the game if we are aiming to reach the finish line.

Here are some tip and ways to overcome erectile dysfunction:

Relax, relax, relax

Relieving stress is among the best ways to stop erectile dysfunction. If you work long hours, have kids or otherwise spend most of your days stressed, your pecker performance will reflect that. The older you are, the more your time becomes strained, so the 35-plus crowd should listen to their lover when she suggests a weekend getaway or a nice dinner beforehand. You will need to unwind before you turn your lady into a freak between the sheets, and the relaxation will enhance your focus as you aim for climax.

Don’t worry so much

All things considered, you just have to relax and stop worrying about your coming adventure. The less you stress, the easier it will be to stay hard.

Communicate with your partner

- Learn to have an open and honest communication with your partner. If she can accept the nature of your problem, it’s like taking a big weight off your shoulders. And she knows to give you some time and understanding if things are drifting in the wrong direction.

Play a little dirty

- Of course, some men experience ED because of sheer sexual overexposure. Be it ogling too many men’s magazines, staring at too much yoga ass in the gym or checking out the cleavage- and thigh-baring ladies in the office, your day could be spent at half-mast, meaning your ship is moored when it matters. This is when you fight fire with fire, if your partner is up for it (and she usually is, if presented right), put on the soft porn. It may take some delicate maneuvering, because most women don’t want to know about your old collection of  Asian Backdoor to Cream Pies. Unless you know she’s into it, don’t break out the really naughty stuff. The stories will make her giggle, and the dirty scenes will give her ideas–and you’ll be turned on when she decides to try them out.

Focus on your women

Younger men who have been raised up watching MTV, texting and living on the internet also need help with ways to stop erectile dysfunction. Their attention spans are shot by recent technological advancements, meaning modern up-and-not-so-coming twentysomethings can fall flat well before they hit that perfect note. Dudes, homies, broskies: sex ain’t a dart game, where quick, straight-down-the-middle strokes spell victory. It’s more like pool, where being smooth and being aware of positioning and angles earns the winning shot.

Be creative

- Sometimes, one of the best of ways to stop erectile dysfunction is taking the focus off of yourself. If you sense your tool running low on batteries, recharge it by spending some time kissing her along her whole body and spend some time between her thighs. Put her hands in your hair as yours massage her hips, legs and everywhere else. The tactile sensation of her skin on your fingertips, the hair tousling and the sounds of her moaning will bring you back to full attention in no time.

Taking hormones, using condoms and diaphragms doesn’t work well for everyone, for a plethora of reasons, making the withdrawal method a reasonably attractive choice for many.

A 2008 research paper published in Contraception magazine shows that withdrawal is only 2% less effective than condoms, go figure. Condoms have a 2% failure rate, withdrawal comes in with 4%. However, the real problems kick in when condoms, or withdrawal, are used incorrectly, pushing the total realistic failure rate up to almost 20%. In retrospective, performed properly, withdrawal is actually a scientifically proven, and fairly reliable contraception method for adults in committed sexual or romantic relationships. However, it isn’t called coitus interruptus for no reason: Pulling out interrupts the flow of sex, and some people might find this too interrupting.

Keep in mind that some positions are better suited than others for executing this method, as they allow easy removal of the penis, and can provide some nice visuals — you get a squirt on your breasts, buttocks and bellies, and can enjoy this aspect of lovemaking as well as feeling more secure in your choice of birth control. This is all a matter of taste, of course.

The Best Two Withdrawal Positions

The “Pull-out Puppy”

The Pull-out Puppy, also called doggy style offers not only easy removal of the penis. You know he’s in control, has free movement and can have more trust on his swift actions.

The Yahtzee

The Yahtzee is also known as the missionary position, and he executes a swift exit before explosion occurs. While in this position, he can pull out before he comes by holding himself up with his hands, then lose his load on your belly.

The Worst Withdrawal Position

The Sperm-Jacker

The Sperm-Jacker — woman on top — is a bad way to execute the withdrawal method. This is for the simple reason that it is much harder for him to escape while he’s not in control. It becomes difficult because he has to inform her of the oncoming orgasm, and she would have to respond by lifting him off her. It’s drag and can kill the experience. In this position, it’s also much easier for a women to get pregnant, should something get “left behind”.

Be aware of your menstrual cycle, and learn together — it is in fact only a few days a month. This way you can enjoy going bareback, without the potential stress of withdrawal or other methods. It’s not as though as it sounds, and empowers you both to really protect yourself by understanding what is actually going on. An excellent resource is the fertility guide “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” by Toni Weschler, on Amazon.com for less than 20 bucks.

Intra-office propositioning takes some planning, but once you’ve found an equally interested counterpart, your course of action should be swift and direct. It’s vital to choose safe heaven surroundings, like the office-party time or even the hidden copy room. If you prefer a less direct method of communication, then a well-timed text message can help you arrange a post-meeting rendezvous.

Be aware of jealous competitors, your office is full of people ready to take you down at the slightest hint of vulnerability. Don’t assume that any of your officemates are completely trustworthy; as a rule, and especially if your office has a no-fraternization policy, it’s better to keep your endeavour to yourself.

Before you engage in hot and steamy copy room sex, a tip, though: figure out if your office is under video surveillance, and if it is, some whipped cream will dismantle said surveillance system so your indiscretions don’t follow you to the Board room couple of years down the road.

Displays of affection in the office will ruin your office rep faster than admitting you’ve been running a money laundering operation out of your cubicle. People will quickly catch on to your stolen goods and in fact, it’s probably better to avoid your partner in crime as much as possible while in the office, and never, ever show up together in the morning holding hands and sharing a bagel.

Prepare yourself for War if things go south. If the partner is your boss, well played, if not, ready yourself for the onslaught of nasty looks and smirks, if and when you either get a promotion or get canned.

All good things must come to an end, but that in no way guarantees that most things come to a good end. You must resist the urge to talk smack and spread rumours about what a jerk he/she is. Not only will this method of attack completely backfire – you’ll end up looking like an obsessed psycho Attempt to not completely freak out by channeling your energy into kicking ass on your next project, or take your mind off of unpleasant things by seeking comfort in the arms of someone from another department.

Either way, you’ll always have your broken desk lamp and artful Xeroxes to remind you of how fun it was while it lasted.