Does Erotic Intelligence Guarantee Incredible Sex

Erotic intelligent people should have better sex, says a U.S. sexologist. In search of wisdom fit for fun editor Franziska Wischmann has done research in the past.

So Tom. I met him after my studies in Berlin. My then boyfriend received his doctorate in Switzerland and was far away. At first I could not stand Tom: He was two years younger, my trainers and damned arrogant. But it also irritated me. And at some point it tipped between us. We chatted for hours, met with nightly bouts of red wine in the park, and what was the strongest terms: We never touched us. No hand that got lost, no kiss, nothing. I had betrayed my friend and have never guessed, however, that long ago it was too late. Four months we persevered. The bodies of the highest excitement, the dopamine level at the stop. Until we attacked each other in a mixture of fear, self-indulgent bad conscience and unbridled lust.

But how do you find out what you need and above all, how you need it? Morin has for one simple tip: Dive into the past! Focus on the most exciting encounter of your life, remember as much detail as possible! Thank you, Tom, for this once exciting experience! Critical look at in the rear view mirror is sexual, understanding patterns of their own volition to get into central erotic. Why is this or that encounter was so exciting? How big was this excitement compared to your usual level? What feelings were important: Exuberance? Satisfaction? Neighborhood? Fear? Guilt? Anger? Recognition?

Recent research has shown that the withdrawal method as a form of contraception isn’t as useless as commonly assumed. There is a  perception that using withdrawal (or “pulling out”) is as good as doing nothing (or “leave it in”), but most of us know this isn’t true at all — it has worked for most of us (although hard to prove), if not on a regular basis.

Taking hormones, using condoms and diaphragms doesn’t work well for everyone, for a plethora of reasons, making the withdrawal method a reasonably attractive choice for many.

A 2008 research paper published in Contraception magazine shows that withdrawal is only 2% less effective than condoms, go figure. Condoms have a 2% failure rate, withdrawal comes in with 4%. However, the real problems kick in when condoms, or withdrawal, are used incorrectly, pushing the total realistic failure rate up to almost 20%. In retrospective, performed properly, withdrawal is actually a scientifically proven, and fairly reliable contraception method for adults in committed sexual or romantic relationships. However, it isn’t called coitus interruptus for no reason: Pulling out interrupts the flow of sex, and some people might find this too interrupting.

Keep in mind that some positions are better suited than others for executing this method, as they allow easy removal of the penis, and can provide some nice visuals — you get a squirt on your breasts, buttocks and bellies, and can enjoy this aspect of lovemaking as well as feeling more secure in your choice of birth control. This is all a matter of taste, of course.

The Best Two Withdrawal Positions

The “Pull-out Puppy”

The Pull-out Puppy, also called doggy style offers not only easy removal of the penis. You know he’s in control, has free movement and can have more trust on his swift actions.

Fooling around with your male coworker is like having an affair your neighbor; so very convenient, yet still looming with danger (potentially awkward run-ins, forced togetherness). Luckily, the benefits of this excellently illicit activity far outweigh the pitfalls, especially it provides a welcomed release from the over-caffeinated late-night brainstorming sessions. Just follow these rules of play and you’ll come out the satisfied women in your high-stakes game of office nookies.

Office Sex - Do You Dare?

Intra-office propositioning takes some planning, but once you’ve found an equally interested counterpart, your course of action should be swift and direct. It’s vital to choose safe heaven surroundings, like the office-party time or even the hidden copy room. If you prefer a less direct method of communication, then a well-timed text message can help you arrange a post-meeting rendezvous.

Be aware of jealous competitors, your office is full of people ready to take you down at the slightest hint of vulnerability. Don’t assume that any of your officemates are completely trustworthy; as a rule, and especially if your office has a no-fraternization policy, it’s better to keep your endeavour to yourself.

Before you engage in hot and steamy copy room sex, a tip, though: figure out if your office is under video surveillance, and if it is, some whipped cream will dismantle said surveillance system so your indiscretions don’t follow you to the Board room couple of years down the road.

Displays of affection in the office will ruin your office rep faster than admitting you’ve been running a money laundering operation out of your cubicle. People will quickly catch on to your stolen goods and in fact, it’s probably better to avoid your partner in crime as much as possible while in the office, and never, ever show up together in the morning holding hands and sharing a bagel.