You might still remember last summer, we published an article called “Sure Signs How To Tell If He Is Interested In Me“. As this is a very interesting subject for women, we have decided to revisit this hot topic again. Whether you are gone out with your guy for a while or he is just the one you secretly desire, how do you tell if he is really into you? Please read the following 10 signs will help you to find out.

He Pays Attention To You

Have you noticed his eyes follow you around? With or without contacting your eyes, he is either secretly watching you or he looks at you directly, because he is interested in you The eyes are the window to the soul. He is discovering your beauty and trying to connect to you.

When he is quiet, he is listening to you. He enjoys your voice, your stories, and laugh your joke. He wants to know everything about you. Whether you are in a bar for happy hour or with a group of friends at a party, he will try to find private time coming close to you.

He Touches You

You have noticed that you always try to be near you, because he is interested in you. He also want to take every opportunity to touch you. It could be your hand, your arm, your leg, or your knee, as long as his presence is physical and affectionate. It’s his way of letting you know he likes you.

He Keeps You Close

He wants to sit next to you, he wants to hold your hand, and you will find that his body leans forward toward yours. This move can be either very subtle or extremely in your face or by your ear. He will find an opportunity to whispering to your ear so he can be closed to you and sense your magical scent. It’s his way of letting you know he’d like to get closer. More often, wherever you go, he is there, and he is ready to be close to you!

He Runs Into You

Does he just happen running into you? He claims that he is happened to be your neighborhood, whether is in a coffee shop, or bookstore, or dry cleaning. Coincidence is out. Serendipity is in. You believe these are happy accidents, and you believe he is innocent and very cute! Take this as a positive sign and make the most of your next encounter. This is an opportunity to fund out more about him, encourage him to open out so you can get to know him better too.

He Loves Your Shows

He loves whatever shows you put on your TV at home or movie theater sharing popcorn with you. From comedy to scary movies, from drama to romance, he enjoys laughing with you.  If you are watching scary movies he is dying to hold you in his strong arm. He would love to watch his sport game or play car race, but he rather spend time with you and join your show, because he wants to let you know how important you are to his life. If you do this at home, you might want to think about of treating him with popcorn or pretzel, or even a glass of beer.

He Is Nervous Around You

Because he cares, so you will find you make your guy nervous without reason. He does not know what to say, and where to place his arms. He is shy because he is somehow a little bit insured and venerable, this down not mean he is loosing confidence, just because he does not know your feeling toward him. He’ll get goose bumps or a rapidly beating heart just from being around you. Look for signs like unexplained laughter, sweaty palms and fidgeting. Men usually try to hide their emotion, you make him nervous and excited. Be understanding and help him out with your kindness and gentle approach.

He Loves Your Friends

He loves to hung out with you and your friends, he will please your friends, he buys your girl friends drink, making joke and being funny. You often find your girl friends like him. He is taking care of everyone and being caring and courteous. He is happy, friendly and make sure your friends will like him. It is up to you to get feedback from your friends if they are fully approve for welcoming to the circle of trust.

He Opens His Channel

Women are verbal and driven by emotion, another side of world, men are intent to be visual and physical, and they are driven by different brain chemistry. If you discover him start to express his feeling, that means he is opening his channel to you, and he is ready to move to a intimate relationship.

Economy Has Gone To Dogs

While we face economy down turn, people are suffered from crime including robberies and stealing. This bad circulation has gone to the dogs – money-seeking thieves found a way pilfering pooches and selling them for profit.

The kidnapping dogs for money rises 49% in the first 7 months of 2011, 224 were snatched, compared with 150 in the same period last year.The motivation to drive the trend is money.

Dogs have been taken from homes, pet stores, shelters, cars, parks, and city streets, then sold on the internet, at flea markets, or at roadside stands. Others pretend that they found the god after a reward-seeking flier posted so they can collect the money. Some thieves steal dogs for themselves, friend or a child but don’t want to pay.

Demand For Dogs

More than 46 million U.S. households have dogs, they consider dogs bring them companionship and love, and dogs are part of the family. The average amount spend to buy a god hit #364 last year, up from $221 in 2008.

Most of stolen dogs are small breeds such as Yorkies and Pomeranians, they are popular in general and easy to steal based on size. Some of dogs can be more valuable than laptop. Abductors also know what dog seekers will pay a bundle for a new best friend.

There is some hope that snatched dogs have been recovered. A lot of times people realize how difficult it is to keep a live animal until they can sell. So some dogs are miraculously show up at shelters.

How To Protect Fido

 Be a constant companion

Keep your pet on a leash and never leave it unattended outside a store or restaurant.

Don’t boast about the breed

Watch the bragging and do not publicly mention the price you paid for your pet. Keep low key.

Snap shots of spot

Take a photo of your pet that can be used for flier as well as be distributed to police, neighbors and shelters.

Consider a chip

Implementing a micro chip for pet identification, this will help you to track, and help a vet or shelter identify the true owner if a stolen dog is taken to their facility.

Intimacy promotes both physical and psychological well being. From these intimate attachment a person draws his strength and enjoyment of life and, through what he contributes, he gives strength and enjoyment to others. These are matters about which current science and traditional wisdom are at one.

Medical research found people who are in close relationships are more likely survive health challenges such as heart attacks and major surgery and less likely to develop disease such as cancer and respiratory infections.

Survey discovers that 1/4 of US adults have felt extremely lonely at least one within the previous 2 weeks. Fear is a powerful motivator of behavior that seldom takes us where we want to go. Depression is a “safe” position that many people, miserable as they may fee, are afraid to relinquish. While it is true that people with serious anxiety disorders appear, in many cases, to have biological predisposition to these conditions, it is also true that anxiety can be learned. Children growing up in families in which one or both parents exhibit a high level of apprehension are often vulnerable themselves to unreasonable fears.

It is the consciousness of our mortality that marks us as human, that forces us to confront the inevitable loss of ourselves and those we love, to contemplate the great mystery of life with a determination to live as well as we can for as long as we can, unafraid.

In many ways it is a miracle that we can tolerate the uncertainties of life without yielding to anxiety or depression. That most of us do so most of the time is both an example of constructive denial and an acknowledgment that the alternative, which is to live in fear, rains life of pleasures it contains.

Our most destructive interpersonal anxiety is our fear of intimacy. Some people will do anything to avoid the risks that come with opening ouself filly to another human being, intentionally to avoid being hurt. Those who have been disappointed in love are preoccupied with proteching themselfves from further rejection. Loneliness is often preferred over the vulnerability of closeness.

New aspect of intimacy provides us powerful insight to develop our strength and better connect to other human being.

Different expression of intimacy

Defining intimacy in terms of purely physical contact, we explore the countless ways in which humans come into physical contact with one another, from a simple pat on the back to the most erotic sexual embrace. The desire for intimacy is the desire to share one’s innermost self with another.

Intimacy is universally accepted among all cultures. Asian especially Japanese seem to rely on friendship to gain intimacy, whereas American seek it more in romantic relationship with a mate. Asians who tend to be less focused on personal feelings such as passion and are more concerned with the practical as aspects of social attachments appear less vulnerable to the kind of disillusionment that leads to the crumbing of relationships.

 Expanding definition of intimacy

Intimacy can be expended to friendship, family and community, as well as nature. We can connect to a tree with intimacy, or connect ocean wave, sound of birds and colorful flower…

Dependence on others versus self-reliance 

We must give up dependence on others, expecting other to give and to love. We must love ourselves first, developing inner peace, inner love and inner intimacy.

Connect with another human being

We must look at any human being from more positive angle and aspect, that immediately crates a feeling affinity, a kind of connectedness, with less apprehension, less fear. When you approach others with thoughts of compassion, it will automatically reduce fear and allow openness with others, creates a positive, friendly atmosphere and the possibility for receiving affection or a positive response from the other person.

After all, we all live in one universe, as we are all connected. You just need to have intention to it and discover one’s true self, and you will see a new world is just waiting for you to love.

I often hear people talk about the reasons why their marriages don’t work out, “she dropped the ball right after the wedding,” or “he’s changed after we got married.” Do vows which behind us to become our worst selves? Is unconditional love and passion finite between men and women?

There is a famous Chinese novel called “Castle”, describes marriage as a castle – people who are in want to get out, and people are out want to get in.

The best seller author Gordon Livingston pointed out, that the expectation that we grow up with, that we will find someone with whom we can form a pair-bond that has all sorts of practical advantages, from tax benefit to the division of labor that makes raising children easier. For many of us, marriage also presents an end to a prolonged search and a relief from the anxious, rejection-laden territory occupied by single people.

The advantage of being single – independence, flexibility, or multiple lovers – has been suggested in opposite by online dating, church, government or our Hollywood industry – everyone finds love in marriage. So we are seduced by romantic ideas that marriage represents: We have found the person who will complete us, someone takes on  this ambitious task.

We are inexperienced how the world works and what we can reasonably expect from other people. “No one else can provide unconditional love like our mothers,” or “is our expectation too high?”

Soon we are surprised by 60% divorce rate or second marriages have a higher failure rate than first one.

Dr. Livingston advised how to understand and achieve successful marriage:

Fundamental questions about readiness for marriage

• Is it possible for us to love another adult as much as we love ourselves?
• How can we know whether we have the ability to do so?
• The best indications are how we behave in their presence
• Can we truthfully say that we would never do anything intentionally to hurt them?
• How does this other person make us feel about ourselves?
• Are we at our best when we are with them?

Evaluation another person’s capacity

Then we evaluate the other person’s capacity for love, key qualities such as kindness, willingness to give of oneself. In the context of a truly loving relationship the line between giving and receiving becomes blurred and the needs and desires of the other person rise to the level of our own.

Attachment in marriage

It is worth noting that what to passes for attachment in most marriages more closely resembles a contract in which our willingness to give is related to our perception of how much we getting from the other person, such as a calculation requires a lot of score keeping: bargaining around sex, it is your turn for grocery shopping… These sentiments indicates the relationship is in trouble.  Remember that we are entitled to receive only as much as we are prepared to give.

A good marriage is easy provided that both people have been astute in the selection process. If we choose partner with ample reserves of kindness and a willingness to place us at the center of his or her life, and if we have sufficiently cultivated those virtues in ourselves, we can refute the “hard work” school marriage, put down our picks and shovels, and partake of the endless pleasure of renewable love.

Long ago, Princess Fiona was looking for her true love. Has she found it?

Was he the Prince Charming or the high tower rescuer Shrek? Who is her true love?

What about you? Have you found your true love yet? Someone who adores you, and appreciate who you are, and respect you as the way you are?

If you see that person has the following  traits, characteristics and behavior,  he or she is your true love:

• Misses you when you are away
• Cooks you chicken soup when you are ill
• Drops and picks you up from the airport
• Hugs you just out of pure passion
• Loves you unconditionally
• Kisses you hello
• Calls you for no reason
• Stands beside you
• Supports your dream
• Helps you find your way
• Encourages you to keep going
• Sends you love notes
• Sees the best in you
• Listens to you without judgment
• Tells you the truth
• Celebrates your successes
• Reaches for you in the middle of the night
• Applauds your courage
• Enjoys your eyes and smile
• Chooses to see your greatness when you cannot
• Laughs with you
• Dries your tears
• Pushes you to be more
• Does the little things
• Accepts you for who you are
• Cares for you
• Wants you to love you more than them
• Admires your power
• Doesn’t try to change you
• Gives you the best surprises
• Believes in you

We all strive for affluence in one way or another. But only daily focus and adjusted lifestyle with set goals will ultimately get us to where we want, or get the things we desire.

This is an excerpt from Deepak Chopra’s book, which is an excellent guide on how to define and create affluence in life. A must read for any spiritual mind.

The Affluence Alphabet

A stands for all possibilities

absolute, authority, affluence, and abundance. From this level it is possible to create anything. This field is our own essential nature. It is our inner self. It is also called the absolute, and it is the ultimate authority. It is intrinsically affluence because it gives rise to the infinite diversity and abundance of the universe.

B stands for better

and best. People with wealth consciousness settle only for the best. The principle of highest first, go first class all the way and universe will respond by giving you the best.

C stands for carefree

and charity, it automatically lead to charity and sharing because source from within it all comes in infinite, unbounded, and inexhaustible. It is state of mind.

D stands law of demand

and supply. We are here to give, serve. When we are in dharma, we enjoy and love our work.

E stands for exulting

in the success of others, especially your competitors and those considered enemies, who will become your helper when you exult in their success. E also stands for the principle that expectancy determines outcomes. So always expect the best and you will see that the outcome is spontaneously contained in the expectation

F stands for failure

and the fact that in every failure is the seed of success. In the manifestation of the material from the non material, of the visible from the invisible, a fundamental mechanics is involved.

G stands for gratitude

generosity, god, gap, and goal. Step 1: you slip into the gap between thoughts. The gap is the window, the corridor, the transformational vortex through which the personal psyche communicates with the cosmic psyche. Step 2: you have a clear intention of a clear goal in the gap. Step 3: you relinquish your attachment to the outcome. Step 4: let universe handle the details.

It is important to have a clear goal, but it is also important to relinquish your attachment to the goal. And the goal is in the gap, and the gap is the potentiality to organize and orchestrate the details required to affect any outcome. One of easiest and most effortless way of slipping into the gap is through the process of meditation.

H stands for happiness

and humanity and the fact that we are here to make all humans we come into contact with happy. Go for happiness first and everything else will follow.

I stands for intention

and the power of unbending intent or intention. It is to make an unchangeable decision from which it is impossible to go back. It is single mindedness of purpose, well defined purpose not countermanded by any other conflicting desires or interests.

J stands for judge

and the fact that is it not necessary to judge. Experience silence in our consciousness, get away from definitions, labels, descriptions, interpretations, evaluations, analyses and judgments.

K stands for knowledge

and that fact that organizing power in inherent in knowledge. Knowledge of any kind gets metabolized spontaneously and brings about a change in awareness from where it is possible to create new realities.

L stands for love

and luxury. Love yourself, love your customers, love your family, and love everybody. Love the world. Adopt a luxury as a lifestyle, that sets the preamble, the preconditions and for the flow of wealth.

M stands for making money

for others and helping other make money. Also motivate other people to help you fulfill your goals is help them fulfill their goals.

N stands for negativity

and saying no to negativity. Whenever you have a negative thought say silently “next” and move on. Not being around negative people, who deplete your energy. Surround yourself with love and nourishment and do not allow the creation of negativity in your environment.

O stands for co-existence

and the fact that life is the coexistence of all opposite values. When there is quiet reconciliation, an acceptance in our awareness of this lively coexistence of all opposite values, then automatically we become more and more non judgmental. Also O means opportunity and opened and honest communication. Every contact with every human being is an opportunity for growth and the fulfillment of desire.

P stands for purpose

in life and for pure potentiality. My purpose in life is to heal, to make everyone I come into contact with happy, and create peace.

Q is to question:

question dogma, ideology, outside authority. What people take for granted what people hold to be true, that we can break through the hypnosis of social conditioning.

R stands for receiving

is as necessary as giving. To graciously receive is an expression of the dignity of giving.

S stands for spending

and service. Money is life energy that we exchange and use as a result of their service we provide to the universe. In order to keep it coming we must keep it circulating.

T stands for transcendence

timeless awareness, talent bank, and tithing. I fell that my experience of transcendence through the practice of meditation gives me an inner stability and silence that is not overshadowed by any activity. That silence stays with me so that no outer experience can overshadow the awareness and experience of the self. T also stands for timeless awareness, time-bound awareness occurs when we relinquish the self for the self image that is the social mask, the protective veneer behind which we hide. Our behavior is always influenced by the past and by anticipation and fear of the future, is burdened by guilt and sorrow, is rooted fear, it cause entropy, aging and heath.

U stands for understanding

the unity behind all diversity. Unity of consciousness is a state of enlightenment where we pierce the mask of illusion which creates separation and fragmentation. We experience unity consciousness when we are in love, when we are with nature gazing at stars or walking on the beach listening to music, in the silence of meditation. We slip through the barrier of time into the playground of eternity.

V stands for value:

truth, integrity, honesty, love, faith, devotion and beauty. “ when we feel beauty, we know it as truth”.

W stands for wealth

consciousness without worries. Truly wealthy people never worry about losing their money because they know that wherever money come from there is an inexhaustible supply of it.

X stands for expressing

honest appreciation and thanks to all how help us.

Y stands for youthful

vigor. We experience health when our identity of who we are comes from reference to the self, we fell energetic, we feel powerful, and experience youthful vigor. When we identify with objects, situations, circumstances, people, or things then we relinquish our energy to the object of reference, we feel lack of energy.

Z stands for zest

for life. To appreciate life in all its vitality and exuberance, to know that power is in the present moment, this is freedom, beyond the known of past conditioning beyond the prison of space, time and causation.

Cuddle Quotes to remember

Come, cuddle your head on my shoulder, dear, Your head like the golden-rod, And we will go sailing away from here To the beautiful land of Nod. Wilcox, Ella Wheeler

My heart to you is given; Oh do give yours to me; We’ll lock them up together And throw away the key.

Frederick Saunders

Be careful how you live; you will be the only Bible some people ever read.

William J. Toms

I will not play tug o’ war. I’d rather play hug o’ war. Where everyone hugs instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles and rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses, and everyone grins, and everyone cuddles, and everyone wins.

Shel Silverstein

With the tears a Land hath shed, Their graves should ever be green.

Thomas B Aldrich

The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.

Alice Walker

Life is the flower for which love is the honey.

Victor Hugo

I can’t understand why people are frightened of new ideas, I’m afraid of the old ones.

John Cage

Change when it comes cracks everything open.

Dorothy Allison

I myself do nothing.the Holy Spirit accomplishes all through me.

William Blake

Candy is dandy, but liquor is quicker.

Ogden Nash

All architecture is shelter, all great architecture is the design of space that contains, cuddles, exalts, or stimulates the persons in that space.

Shel Silverstein

There are in nature neither reports nor punishments, there are consequences.

Robert Ingersoll

The life long or short, its completeness depends on what it was based for.

David Starr Jordan

A fabulous relationship is not a result of hours, days or years of hard working, it’s rather small changes in behavior and attitude that can transform your relationship says Terri L. Orbuch, Ph.D., who followed 373 couples for over 22 years as part of a marriage study funded by the National Institutes of Health.

Most of us believe that the main reason relationships break up is conflict, financial issues, communication problems, or sexual incompatibility. Are we to rigid these days, not enough tolerant towards our partners?

Understand Each Other’s Needs

Dr. Orbuch thinks that the main reason is frustration, day-to-day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts. “To diffuse that frustration, share your expectations with each other. Maybe you desire more affection and he craves more relaxed couple time. “And be sure to check in with your partner once a year, as added pressures or life changes can create new expectations,” Orbuch says.

Show Him Some Love

In our society, women are complimented from work, family and friends. “I love your hair”, “Sexy dress”…And men don’t get that recognition. Have you heard any comment to men about their sexy pants or hair at work? Men need as much appreciation as women. Give theme affirmation, show they are appreciated, respected, and loved. Men rely on that attention from their women. Luckily, there’s another payoff to your flattery: He’s more likely to return those loving deeds back to you.

Talk 10 minutes a day

Take 10 minutes a day to talk about anything — except for kids, responsibilities, or chores, Orbuch’s research showed that 98 percent of happy couples say they intimately understand their partners. And knowing your spouse intimately isn’t always about engaging in heavy conversations: Anything that helps you learn something new will bring you closer. You’ll get to know each other’s inner world and strengthen your bond of happiness.

Focus on the Good

Fixing what’s wrong is not the best way to work out relationship. “The most effective way to boost fun and passion is to add positive elements to your marriage,” Orbuch says. “That positive energy makes us feel good and motivates us to keep going in that direction.” This doesn’t mean that you can’t feel — or talk about — anything negative, but “pretend you are weighing your interactions on a scale,” she says. “If you want a happier relationship, the positive side needs to far outweigh the bad.” The more you honor the love and joy in your bond, the sooner you’ll transform your marriage into one that is truly great.

Some standard thoughts from men:

I must admit that playing the field is a whole lot of fun, but so is being in a serious relationship — provided that it’s with the right woman. But how do you know if she really is the right woman for you? If she possesses the following 10 traits, you better hold on to her for dear life or, before you know it, a guy who already knows where it’s at will get his hands on your “goods.”

She is independent

No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while, like if she’s had a rough day at work, it’s great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can’t seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you’re suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit.

On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet , both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you — while still missing you, of course — then she must be a great girlfriend.

She is intelligent

I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. Instead of being the one in total control, you’ll find yourself trying to figure out what she’s really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers — or if she’s actually thinking at all.
An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won’t let you get bored of her. Besides, it’s nice to have something to talk about between all that chandelier-hanging sex.

She is sexual

While we’re on the topic, a great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. For instance, if you’re into S&M and she’s more the “fluffy lingerie” type, that’s a problem. The two of you have to be on the same page — or, at least, she has to be willing to wear leather and use a whip from time to time.
Of course, this doesn’t imply that she has to know all the right moves straight away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction toward each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each other in the bedroom, or on top of the washer — whatever the case may be.

She is beautiful

I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. She should always look her best and be well put together — matching lingerie is a definite plus.
You have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light. And this doesn’t mean that she has to be a Heidi Klum clone. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you think her full bottom or uncontrollable curls are beautiful, you’re allowed.

She respects you

This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn’t necessarily agree with what you’re saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape or form.
A great girlfriend won’t ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. If she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing.

She lets you be a man

Do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker night and all. If she’s a great girlfriend, she’ll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches.
She has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn’t deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn’t expect you to give up the guys for her.

She is nag-less (or nags less)

There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak up and when to let it slide. You don’t want a girlfriend who will give you hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally.
However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you’re setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide — not even a great girlfriend.

She gets along with friends and family

A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad’s stories and hang out with your friends, but she will enjoy it. She’ll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won’t try to get you to ditch your best buds.
She’ll actually empathize with your brother’s getting dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won’t roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she’ll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).

She loves you

If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn’t try to change you is hard to find. Of course, all women have their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these.
Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn’t seem to faze her either way, and she doesn’t really seem to care about what you have to say, she’s either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there’s no denying that she loves you.

She makes you want to be a better man

Stop making that face… any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn’t have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.

Any woman who has spent time with a new guy will attest that men can be quite mysterious, and we have asked us: How do I know he is in love with me? How can I tell he’s into me? Sometimes it’s hard to read a man and we think we know what he’s feeling and then suddenly he’ll do something that suggests otherwise. Part of this process is to understand how men think. Consider the following scenario.

Ever since you met it has been great, however the thought of getting back together with his ex is the furthest thing from his mind. Instead, he is consumed by thoughts of you. You just pop into his head for no reason, and he wonders if you think of him half as much as he thinks of you.
He wonders what you’re up to and even considers calling you. He sees something in a store window and thinks about how much you would like that particular piece, or he notices a poster for a show that you would love.

He can’t stop thinking about you

If you are the last thing on his mind before he goes to sleep and the first thing on his mind when he wakes up — and he has even dreamed of you on a couple of occasions — then you don’t even need to read on to know if he is in love (but should anyway, just to be sure). A man in love wants nothing more than to be with the woman he adores. He’ll move his schedule around, he’ll drive across town and he’ll linger until the extremely last minute, if he’s into you.

He cares about you

There is a reason why he does not really want to know too much about the girl he had a one-night stand with: he does not love her. When he is in love with a woman, he wants to know all about her: who she is, what she thinks, what makes her laugh. He truly cares about you and your feelings. If he returns your phone calls immediately, calls to check up on you or simply can’t get enough of you, he has the hearts for you. Most of us have struggled with comprehending what phone calls mean but the rules are quite straightforward. If you never hear from him unless you pick up the phone to call him, he’s nowhere near in love with you (yet). If he truly loves a woman, he feels bad if you had a bad day or is upset about something. He does not try to cheer you up because he has to, but because he can’t help it. He will get out off the bed to bring you a bagel in the mid night because you are hungry.

He finds your quirks charming

When you are eating, you can’t help but construct every forkful so that it’s the perfect blend of ingredients fills you with an inexplicable feeling of happiness. You do and say things that make you different, and he likes it. He can’t quite put his finger on why, but it doesn’t even matter. He likes you just the way you are.

He has great chemistry

He can’t be in love with someone that he has no chemistry with. If he seems to always be on the same wavelength, and thinks in similar ways, that’s a great sign. If you also generate enough heat to set off a five-alarm fire bell, then she is probably someone that you could fall in love with, if you aren’t there already.

He doesn’t notice other women as much

Although he can’t help noticing a beautiful woman when one walks by, when he’s in love, some of them tend to slip under the radar, while others just pale in comparison to you. Furthermore, he doesn’t seem to be flirting half as much as. He is slowly realizing that you are often the only woman in the room that matters, and for some reason that suits him just fine.

He loves spending time with you

This one is pretty obvious but important nonetheless. He looks forward to seeing you, and doesn’t care much about what the two of you will be doing. Lately, just going for a walk with your sounds like the best way he could possibly spend an evening. Furthermore, when you’re not together, he misses you and wishes you were spending time together.

His mood is influenced by you

He is happy when you are, and he feels blue when you do. His feeling is all around you and about you. Pay close attention to his body language, for example how many times he tries to hold your hand or reaches out to kiss you. A man in love commonly can’t keep his hands off the woman he’s crazy about, even though some men aren’t that comfortable with public displays of affection. If he wants to be close physically with you take that as a reflection of what he feels in his heart.

He doesn’t mind compromising (sometimes)

There was a time when it was his way or the highway, but with you it’s different. Not that you ask him to, but he doesn’t mind missing a night out with the guys to be with you. And he finds himself trying to incorporate you into his plans or altering them to accommodate you.
He also finds himself not putting up a fight when you want to go to Shakespeare in the Park. Although his friends find this very amusing, he knows that deep down, they wish that they had found a love like his.

Other priorities take a back seat

He used to train religiously, but lately, if you are free for dinner, he doesn’t mind missing a workout. Not only that, but his workaholic tendency of bringing home his work on weekends to get ahead seems a bit excessive to him as of late. His ever-important “to do” list seems quite stagnant these days, as being with you always manages to render his other plans and obligations obsolete. What was it that he absolutely had to do by four o’clock again?

He starts thinking about the future with you’re in it

It used to be that the future with a woman meant his date on Saturday night, but with you, the future seems infinite. Not only plan to see you this weekend, but he wants to see you a year from now as well. When planning his next vacation, he knows he wants to spend it with you, and not a random beach bunny he happens to meet while he’s there. And when he gets an invitation to a wedding that takes place three months from now, he asks you to be your date without thinking that it’s too far away to tell if you’ll still be together.